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No more gender-specific restrooms!

May 26, 2009
We went out to lunch today to a popular queer-owned restaurant in Southeast Portland. I got up to use the restroom after we’d ordered and there was a guy standing outside waiting. I went back to my table for a few minutes and then, when I saw a woman walking away from the restrooms, I headed back in that direction. The same guy was still standing outside, but I could see that the women’s restroom door was slightly ajar.
“Is anyone in there?,” I asked.
He gave me a slightly puzzled look. “No…”
“Are you going to use it?”
“No,” he replied. “Go for it.”
So there he stayed as I went in and used a perfectly good bathroom. And guess what? Even though it said “Women” on the door, and even though I am a guy, it functioned for me perfectly!
I haven’t paid any attention to the silly signs on gender-discriminatory bathroom doors for years. If it’s a bathroom with multiple stalls, then of course I’m not going to go into a women’s bathroom and freak everyone out. America is still a little too uptight and puritanical for that to work at this point. But if they are single occupant restrooms? Give me a break! There is no reason whatsoever for three people to be standing in line with one of two restrooms sitting empty. And that’s just the most practical reason. Just as important for me is the fact that America is becoming increasingly enlightened to the fact that gender is a spectrum, and not a binary condition. It’s nothing short of hostile and discriminatory to force a transgender person to endure the stress and potential embarrassment or worse of being confronted by some unevolved jerk for using the “wrong” bathroom.
If you own a bar, restaurant or other public establishment with a single occupant restrooms, please please please make them gender non-specific. If you frequent such an establishment, please approach the staff or ownership about this. As obvious as it may seem to you and me, it’s obviously just not something that enough people are thinking about, yet.

Gender non-specific bathroom sign

We went out to lunch today to a popular queer-owned restaurant in Southeast Portland. I got up to use the restroom after we’d ordered and there was a guy standing outside waiting. I went back to my table for a few minutes and then, when I saw a woman walking away from the restrooms, I headed back in that direction. The same guy was still standing outside, but I could see that the women’s restroom door was slightly ajar.

“Is anyone in there?,” I asked.

He gave me a slightly puzzled look. “No…”

“Are you going to use it?”

“No,” he replied. “Go for it.”

So there he stayed as I went in and used a perfectly good bathroom. And guess what? Even though it said “Women” on the door, and even though I am a guy, it functioned for me perfectly!

I haven’t paid any attention to the silly signs on gender-discriminatory bathroom doors for years. If it’s a bathroom with multiple stalls, then of course I’m not going to go into a women’s bathroom and freak everyone out. America is still a little too uptight and puritanical for that to work at this point. But if it’s a single-occupant restroom, there’s no reason whatsoever for three people to be standing in line with one of two restrooms sitting empty. And that’s just the most practical reason. Just as important for me is the fact that America is becoming increasingly enlightened to the fact that gender is a spectrum, and not a binary condition. It’s nothing short of hostile and discriminatory to force a transgender person to endure the stress and potential embarrassment – or worse – of being confronted by some unevolved jerk for using the “wrong” bathroom.

If you own a bar, restaurant or other public establishment with single occupant restrooms, please please please make them gender non-specific. If you frequent such an establishment, please approach the staff or ownership about this. As obvious as it may seem to you and me, it’s obviously just not something that enough people are thinking about, yet.

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